March 9, 2016 (Doug’s 35th birthday!!)
Sorry, folks! We loved waiting for the big surprise to be revealed at the delivery, so you will have to stay tuned until March.
How we found out:
Since Doug and I were trying to get pregnant, I was completely aware of every change that occurred in my body. Since I was pregnant before, I was absolutely positive that I knew I was pregnant. I think I surprised Doug with my certainty.
When you are trying to get pregnant, any time spent waiting is miserable. You just want to know if you are pregnant or not. Given my certainty, I opted to try the early detection pregnancy tests. I took the first test on June 28th and it was negative. Since I knew it was really early, and I was sure that I was in fact pregnant, I didn’t really think much of it.
On June 30th, as Doug was getting ready for a trip to Wisconsin, I took another early test. This one had a faint line. I began googling and reading discussion boards to see if I could take this as a good sign or if I had to wait longer. We decided to be cautiously optimistic, yet celebrate that we had a new baby on the way.
On July 3rd as Doug returned, I took one more test. This one had a full dark line, so we felt more confident in our exciting news.
Jenna-I knew I was right!
Doug-Yay! LBD 2!
Donovan-Has no clue what is going on 🙂
Keeping the secret and Sharing the news:
This time around, we didn’t feel any rush to share our secret with anyone. After having one child, you suddenly become a target for questions about when you will have the next one. People observe when you drink and when you don’t and how you act or if you seem tired or sick. It seemed that everyone was just looking for clues that I could be pregnant. It was was a little bit obnoxious, so I felt more justified in holding on to the news a little longer.
We told my family first because they would be the most likely to figure out that I was pregnant. While we were at Anna Maria Island, we had Donovan wear his “Big Brother” shirt and wait for my parents and sisters to notice. They were all excited about the news and all admitted that they were suspicious that something was going on.
We shared the news with Doug’s family via FaceTime in a similar fashion. Adam and Kristin took the longest to notice the shirt, but to be fair, they were also taking care of their new son, Simon.
Once our family knew, we started making calls to friends. It was a great reason to catch up with people when you have exciting news to share.
We shared our big news with most of our family and friends at my parents Labor Day party. We had taken a few pictures of Donovan and put them up on the TV.
Our Facebook announcement came the following weekend.
How I was feeling:
This time around the morning sickness was way worse. I needed to eat as soon as I woke up and I always felt as if I could throw up at any moment. I only wanted to eat carbs. Frozen food was the only way that I could satisfy my urgency to eat immediately. Snacking was critical to not feeling too sick all the time. And, dinners, well, let’s just say that there was a lot of eating out and frozen meals. I just could not bring myself to cook because then I would want nothing to do with what I had made. I also adopted what I like to call, fourth meal. As if the snacks didn’t add up to additional meals, this meal came after dinner. If I missed fourth meal, then the night and the morning were extra nauseating.
No one warns you that having a toddler is a lot of work. It is wonderful, and exhausting on a typical day. Add in being pregnant and you reach a whole new level of fatigue. This time around, I did not have the luxury of laying on my couch while watching mindless TV. I still had to take care of my little guy who needed my attention and wanted me to play. The silver lining was nap time. I greatly appreciated snuggling with Donovan and taking long naps together. The only problem was that I could have taken at least two more naps a day, but he wasn’t interested.
The first few appointments are so exciting as you get that final confirmation that you are pregnant. My new doctor does more ultrasounds that my doctor in North Carolina. So, we could see our little one growing.
Soon the excitement wears off a bit as I remembered how many doctors appointments there are and how much waiting you do for quick check ups. And, I hate having my blood taken, even though I have gotten better. It seems that your blood is needed way more frequently at the beginning to make sure that you and the baby are healthy.
First pregnancy and second pregnancy comparisons:
As I mentioned before, I completely underestimated how much work it would be taking care of Donovan and being pregnant. I tried so hard to be fun and playful, but there were days that I was just not on my parenting game. I had to cut myself some slack and realize that I could get through this and I would feel better one day!
There was certainly less anxiety with this pregnancy than the first. Since I had been through it all before, I knew what was coming next. I didn’t need to read “What to Expect When You are Expecting” and I didn’t need to google every symptom. I still had the first trimester worry that the baby would be health and that we would make it to the second trimester successfully, yet it wasn’t at the front of my mind because I was busy with LBD 1.
It is amazing how quickly you forget the misery of the first trimester when you decide to have a second child. Since I felt worse this time, I found myself wondering how I forgot about this from before. As a parent you learn to not wish time away because your child grows so quickly. I felt a simultaneous urge to hope that I would feel better as soon as the second trimester began.
Doug and I did not anticipate to get pregnant so quickly. We expected a few months of trying before we would have our intended outcome. We are so thankful that we were blessed with such an smooth process. The timing will put Donovan and the new baby at exactly two years apart. I guess March was meant to be birthday month for the DeGroots 🙂
As I mentioned before, Doug and I were not in a rush to share our news. It wasn’t that we were not excited, but more that maybe we were not ready to admit how much our lives were about to change. We wanted to continue to enjoy our lives as our little family of three and not get too wrapped up in what was to come. We knew there would be plenty of time for preparations once I started to feel better 🙂
I did start to wonder how I could love a child any more than I love Donovan. I know that my love for him completely caught me off guard so I assume that the new love for LBD 2 will do the same. But, I do worry about comparing the two. What if I do love Donovan more? And, how do parents of multiple children give their children all the love that they need? It was easy with Donovan because he was the only one. He has always been the focus and has received my full attention. How do second children even come close to experiencing what the first received from their parents? I’m sure that instead of dividing your love for two children, it will just grow. For now, we are enjoying each day before everything changes in March 🙂
As you can see from the pictures below, this time around I opted to take my “bump” picture in whatever I was wearing that day, instead of wearing the same thing. I also have a new little buddy joining me in each picture. Stella voted to sit these weekly pictures out. And, let me tell you, Stella was a much easier customer than Donovan. It is fun to look back and see how Donovan has changed over the past few months.
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