It is true what they say about the second trimester. It really is so much better than the first. I finally had energy again and food didn’t make me miserable.. My stomach still needed food when it needed food and certain foods still didn’t settle well but all in all, I was almost back to normal. I was able to get back into my daily workout routine, but the elliptical still made me nauseous so I stuck to weights and the treadmill for the rest of the pregnancy. I had to give up my hot yoga classes for regular ones, but they were relaxing. I took a few pre-natal yoga classes with an instructor who was also a dula. She covered some great information about pregnancy, labor, and child birth. And, boy, did that yoga breathing and mindfulness help me when I was in labor!
Fall is such a beautiful time of year in North Carolina. It is truly something to see when the leaves change a little each day until you are suddenly surrounded by bright oranges and yellows. It also means that the weather gets cooler, which is just what a pregnant lady likes to hear! It was really nice that most of my pregnancy was during the cool months. It sure made those hot flashes more manageable. It also meant that I could keep hiding my growing bump for just a bit longer.
My mom came to visit to help Doug and I make some decisions about what we would need for this baby. I found the whole baby registry thing even more overwhelming than when we registered for our wedding. For that registry, it was all about what you liked and what you thought you would use. When registering for a baby, I didn’t even have the first clue as to what I would really need. It was one of those moments when I was completely and utterly thankful for how giving and wonderful my mother is. She helped us get the whole thing organized. And of course, we had some fun in the meantime. It was also about this time that I became incredibly sad that we lived so far away from family. In such a special time in our lives where our family was about to change forever, I often wished that everyone could live in these moments with us. Not just via facetime or the weekly bump picture.
October also began the middle of the night bathroom breaks and the beginning of never being comfortable when trying to sleep. I had slept so well at the beginning of the pregnancy and then I could never find a position that let me feel truly comfortable. I often laid awake envying how easily Doug could fall asleep each night. My stomach also seemed to shrink as it was being invaded by a growing baby. Portions became a lot smaller because a full stomach was not a comfortable thing while pregnant. I also began to have a hard time breathing. It was never anything serious, but LBD was taking over so much space!
We got to see LBD for a second time. These pictures looked more like a real baby. We saw a cute nose and could see LBD sucking his/her little thumb. It was amazing to see this little baby moving inside of me. Everything looked healthy. The moment came when the ultra-sound tech asked if we wanted to know the sex. It took everything in me to say no. So Doug and I looked away and one person in the whole world knew if we were having a boy or a girl. The sex was never listed on any of our medical records because my doctor said that she could never keep it a secret so she couldn’t know either.
October also brought a big surprise. Evelyn Lucile Motley decided to make a surprise arrival a few months early. We were so excited and happy for Ben and Ashley and we prayed for Evey to grow stronger each day while in the NICU.
The day had finally come. I had to tell my staff that I was pregnant. The bump was becoming more real and at this point I was only wearing maternity clothes. It was getting harder to not talk about being pregnant in conversation in front of them. And there were a few students who caught me talking about it and figured the whole thing out. I told them at our weekly staff meeting and of course they were excited. The reactions ranged from “yeah, we were kind of suspecting something” to “No, I don’t believe you”. They were also adamant that I share the sex and possible names. They didn’t believe that we were waiting to find out if LBD would be a boy or a girl. They soon began suggesting names and one staff member was certain that his name (Shafiq) would be our choice. Either that or Jamies, since FSU was having a legendary season.
Also, have I mentioned that not drinking a beer while watching football is a little bit like torture? Now that the weather was getting nice, I began drinking tea. And I was working on two huge afghans for Leah and Rachel for Christmas. So, yes, I drank hot tea and crocheted afghans on my comfy couch each night and went to bed early.
We had visitors in November. Doug’s mom, Kathy, and Doug’s sister, Kristin were with us for a long weekend. The next week Doug’s parents, Ed and Cathy came too. It was fun to see everyone and to share in the excitement of LBD.
This month I also felt the first flutters of kicks. It is hard to say when it first happened, especially since I had never felt it before and I didn’t t know what to expect. But eventually they grew stronger and I knew that they were more than just gas!
Doug and I toured the hospital where we would deliver. I was not sure how it would be driving to Charlotte while I was in labor. It was about a 20 to 30 minute drive. But this hospital was awesome. The birthing center was so nice and the rooms didn’t feel horribly sterile and white like most hospitals. It was becoming real seeing the place where we would meet LBD.
Doctors visits are a regular occurrence while pregnant. We were lucky that our doctor was close by and that we liked her sassy, southern charm. But after a while, they are all the same and they begin to feel like a hassle. Again, Doug was such a great support through them all. He came to every single appointment, except one. We would read magazines together and he helped me get over my dislike for giving blood, which you do all the time. I am so thankful for a partner who supported me through each annoying appointment!
November ended with a small Thanksgiving with J.Nye. She was one of the first people who knew that I could be pregnant. While we were trying to get pregnant I didn’t drink. Jessica, being the amazing friend that she is, came for my birthday that year. She brought with her champagne and wine and was ready for a celebratory weekend. When we told her that I wouldn’t be drinking, she said, “cheers” and proceeded to drink her champagne by herself. Jessica has always been a wonderfully supportive and caring friend, even in spite of our opposite personalities. Our friendship only strengthened during our years in North Carolina. She is truly like family.
Thanksgiving was quiet and relaxing. There was food, football, and friendship. And lots of card games, Settlers of Cattan, and drinking (for Doug and Jessica, of course!).
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